Telling people to “assume good intent” is a sign that if they come to you with a concern, you will minimize their feelings, police their reactions, and question their perceptions. It tells marginalized people that you don’t see codes of conduct as tools to address systemic discrimination, but as tools to manage personal conflicts without taking power differences into account.Read more
Start a story with a farm boy and by the end, he’ll be a hero.
I grew up a geek girl on a dairy farm. My mother milked cows the day I was born. Thirty-three years later, I’m waking at 4:30 in the morning, tugging on my coveralls and muck boots, and heading out to a barn filled with fifty milk cows. Having descended from generations of rural Pennsylvania dairy farmers my agricultural roots are easy to pinpoint. My geek origins are more diffuse.Read more
From the porcelain doll to the kung fu master— two benevolent stereotypes which all Asian Americans have faced at one point or other. But both ideal femininity and ideal masculinity are carefully manufactured. No one can achieve these ideals, particularly not Mulan, however hard she tries.Read more
For the past couple of years, the demand for better representation has been pretty heated between those who have it and those who don’t. If you are white, male, straight, and cisgender, then you’re in the first group. If you’re not, then you’re tired of not seeing yourself and seeing bad representations of yourself in the media you enjoy. Yet, there are also some who have so little decent representation that they feel threatened by other groups who want the same.Read more
When you tell people that even acknowledging the existence of bisexuality renders a book ‘too mature’ for kids, you’re contributing to a hostile environment for bi and other queer kids. By treating their stories as dirty, you’re treating them as dirty. Read more
There are few things in life more fraught than talking about what makes us who we are in public–and even more so if those things are also sources of oppression or marginalization. Something that often compounds that vulnerability are tactics designed to shame or bully people into silence when they do speak out–even if they are only sharing our lived experience and not calling anyone out.Read more